Blue Toenails

Blue Toenails

As a woman of a certain age, I have always been told how to behave, how to conform and how to appear in order to fit other's expectations. I have never been great at it and always felt that I had a lot of changing to do to be like "everybody" else. 
I think when I take people to see houses, they often start out feeling the same way. My father said I have to buy brick, my aunt said I can't buy in that town, my brother wants me to have a house where he can stay in the basement. And so it goes, the largest decision of your life and you have to listen to what everyone else wants. But really, who is going to live there? I know we all want to please our friends and relatives. All of those people do have good ideas and viewpoints but in the end, it is you and the house. You have to decide what will make you happy, what price, what condition, what location and ultimately what you can afford. Personal decisions that your realtor should be assisting you in quantifying and clarifying but never pushing you in to. The decision should be yours and you should be comfortable sitting with your agent and going through the pros and cons of listings and trying to decide what are the things that are most important to you and what can you eliminate. It must fit you and only you. 
And this brings us to blue toenails. All my life I have been a rebel trying to fit into a conservative socially acceptable model. Every once in a while a little rebel still raises its head. My son, age 11, always tells me he like me to get red toenails. I like red ok but, I was longing for something different, something wild (I mean I never even get hand design) and so I decided to get blue. First time ever other than your standard, bright, electric, non-conformist blue that would make me happy. So I did. I went home. My son stared at my feet. "Hmmmm" he said. Long pause - "Nice." And that was that. Buy the house you want, where it feels like home, with the agent you can work with, on your time line, and where you want to be. "Nice"


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Dated: August 7th 2013
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About Mary: I have a long background in public service. I am a Registered Nurse with a BA and an MPS in Health C...

3 Responses

  1. Marie Graham

    Yes, who was it that said when you try to please everyone you please no one...? Nice blue!!

    Aug.09.2013

  2. Debbie Gartner

    Awesome post, Mary. Yes, sometimes, you try to do what you think others will like. But, sometimes, when you do what just feels right, you get the best satisfaction and best reaction. Love it. BTW, I caught this on G+...you're making waves.

    Aug.09.2013

  3. Debbie Gartner

    ugh. I look shorter and fatter and more distorted than usual. Anyway to fix that?

    Aug.09.2013

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