I find that sometimes you can't make someone smile or feel brighter no matter what you do. That happened to me today.
As a person that likes people and isnaturally light of spirit, I usually find my interactions with others to be pleasant. I am a smiler, eye contacter and light joke teller. I am the one that talks to you on the grocery line, engages the Amazon person in personal conversations and basically, makes a connection with almost everyone I encounter. I like people.
How then to explain my very sad encounter with the TJ Maxx sales clerk today? I told her a little joke. She looked at me like I had run over her cat. I repeated my little joke, it was about me being able to pass up the chocolate on the checkout line and didn't I get extra credit for that? She made me explain my comment to her. I said you know how you put the chocolate on the checkout, well I put it back and don't I get extra credit. She said,"I didn't put it there the manager did." I repeated that it was just a little joke. I said, "To make you smile!" I got the cat runner over look again.
I don't know what had happened to this young woman to make her view so sour but I do know that the holiday spirit comes from within us. We have the opportunity to be joyous on a daily basis if we chose. Many times that joy can be cultivated by something as simple as pleasant interactions with other humans we meet along the way. Many times I have chuckled politely over a joke I didn't get and I still found myself feeling better.
We are in a season when many focus on all the wants and the missings and the disappointments. What is the difference between people that they can hate or love this season? Certainly money can be a stressor and family issues complicate matters but, we can chose to be light of spirit. We have to turn away from anger and bitterness, look for the beauty in what we do have, and sometimess just hold on to precious memories that make us feel love.
When all else fails, we should help others. Nothing takes us out of our selves and our self pity or self loathing than to see others who have so much less. The holidays are a time when we should focus on our peace, inside and out. Making a committment to caring for yourself in this manner is the best way to enjoy yourself and others. Peace and Joy to all and out with the bad, in with the good, where ever you find it.
Author:Mary Kingsley Phone: 917-292-5378 Dated: December 10th 2012 Views: 4,279 About Mary: I have a long background in public service. I am a Registered Nurse with a BA and an MPS in Health C...
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